I have always been amazed at how connected the human spirits are. Our experiences are related, our joys in life inspire others to go on, our misery attracts company, our kindness encourages hope, and our innovative ideas stir people into positive actions.
Looking back, I realized that there is one experience that made me even more connected with my fellow human beings than ever before ― emotional pain. In my brokenness, I have seen the goodness of the human spirit in action. I was assured that I don’t have to struggle alone. I have been loved, accepted, comforted, healed, and taken safely away from the most damaging memories of pain. To every person I meet in the intersection of pain, I always joke by saying that “broken hearts have certain umbilical cords that connect them beat by beat.”
In my precarious state of brokenness, one truth became evident to me ― we are meant to care for each other. In today’s post, allow me to introduce you to one of the persons who proved to be a wonderful testimony to this truth. Her name is Charmaine…and this is her story.
Almost six years ago, I found myself in the middle of nowhere, staring blankly at space, while trying to figure out where have I done wrong. I just found out that my boyfriend of more than three years cheated on me with one of the most unexpected persons I never knew can hurt me ― my friend. Losing my boyfriend hurt painfully. Losing a friend who obviously didn’t had my best interest in her heart was like getting your heart pierced, then smashed to pieces. It was one of the worst betrayals I’ve ever experienced in my life.
The Ultimate Betrayal
People in relationships are just like that ― frail and imperfect. I wasn’t the perfect girlfriend (that’s for sure!), but he wasn’t the perfect boyfriend either. The point is, we were both imperfect and we were supposed to work as a team. If you have a problem with your partner, you ought to tell him or her before anyone else. You’re not supposed to talk to all people in town exposing her weaknesses and cheating on her eventually. However, in my experience the opposite of my expectations happened. This didn’t make sense at all. It only made sense now.
God, Purpose, and My Pain
When the wound is fresh and new, our focus is on the pain and not on the overall purpose behind it. I remember back then, my mind was wrapped up on the thought that “Lord, it hurts. Stop the pain please.” I was asking God to remove me from the painful situation right there and then. My frustration continued to increase as I nurse a broken heart which became more painful and wounded with every passing day.
Now, as I sit here typing this message, I realized that God did the right thing (He always does) by allowing me to go through what seemed like an unending painful circumstances. Why? They made me realize who I am as a person and what my worth is as a daughter of God. More importantly, it led me to my soulmate, whom God has destined for me.
It’s Not Time that Heals Wounds, It’s God
After seven months from the day of ultimate betrayal, I met my would-be husband. We’ve been together for almost five years this April, and I wouldn’t change a thing about how it all happened if you’ll ask me. God healed what I thought was a completely hopeless and broken heart. He even blessed me with a man who fears Him and follows His word. I couldn’t ask for more.
God isn’t concerned about our comfort more than our spiritual benefit. He is focused on the end result of every trial ― to make us look more like Jesus. He will allow painful circumstances in our relationships, not because He wants to see us suffer, but because we have to learn that unless we fully devote ourselves first to Jesus, we won’t succeed in loving anyone, even our partners [Tweet This], with all authenticity. ― Charmaine Belonio, Organized Lunacy
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About the Author
Charmaine Belonio is the founder of Organized Lunacy, a blog that strives to provide inspiration and motivation for people from all walks of life. Join her in her journey to spread love and hope to make this world a better place to live in. Like her Facebook page and follow her on Twitter at @OrganizedLunacy.